Grieving is not Accomplished Quickly.

It is a transitory emotional wave that can be excruciatingly slow to unfold...

...but it is a healing process. Here are a few suggestions to consider when a loved one dies:

All individual family members and loved ones should be allowed to express grief in the manner that is most comfortable for them,

...short of condoning alcoholic binges, or other self-destructive behavior. Let the person cry, scream, weep, or go into isolation if that is what he or she needs to do.

Be ready to serve as a friend and counselor.

Sooner or later, nearly everyone needs to talk through grief. You too may need to do this, so it can be a mutual process.

Do not think you can handle it alone.

I tried to do this, to some degree, without being aware of it, and as a result, my grieving period was extended much longer than it might have been. Grieving is a process that can take years, but your initial and most intense grieving period will last only a few weeks unless you "handle it" as I did, then you are prone to spontaneous outbursts of grief over extended periods.

Be ready to bear the brunt of the anger of family members of the deceased.

Often, those who fail to release their anger prior to the death need to vent eventually. By tolerating it, you do the person a great favor. By criticizing or rebuking that person, you only prolong their grief.

~ Les Brown
It's Not Over 'till You Win